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Claws and All: Boundaries and mental health

Writer: Nü Moon Nü Moon

Updated: Nov 1, 2023



It can be difficult and emotionally draining to deal with a loved one who is experiencing mental illness. While it's natural to want to help them in every way you can, setting appropriate limits is important for your well-being. I'm here to share my experience as someone who survived through this challenging period. I'll share my own experiences and the lessons I've learned through them.

In an effort to promote a healthy relationship, I discovered that creating limits would be crucial. Establishing boundaries is an act of self-care that helps you define limits and safeguard your mental well-being. It is not about closing yourself off from your loved ones. It is a way for both parties to define what is appropriate and what goes too far.


It matters to educate yourself about mental health in order to develop boundaries that work. Find out about the signs, the causes, and any challenges they may encounter. I personally made the decision to register for a mental health first aid course. I was able to attempt efficient communication and better grasp their needs thanks to this knowledge.

I was also able to access indicators or warning symptoms of mental diseases that are frequently present. One note: Observe your loved one's behavior and look for patterns that can indicate a deterioration in their health or a transgression of your relationship rules. Knowing these warning indicators enables you to maintain your well-being boundaries in a proactive manner. I wasn't always good at identifying the warning signs at first, but I finally did, which helped me decide how to approach my loved one with greater care.

I eventually had to admit that it was difficult to support a loved one who had a mental disorder. I frequently turned to my family (as well as their own family) for assistance as well as to counseling, which gave me much-needed emotional support. Prioritizing your own mental health is important. Make time for self-care activities that help you unwind and cope with stress. I personally made the choice to engage in music and art.

While having boundaries is essential, it's also important to be adaptable and understanding. There are instances when your loved one goes beyond the established boundaries because mental illness can be unpredictable. I frequently approach these circumstances with empathy and an attempt to better understand them. Setting limits in relationships with loved ones suffering from mental illness is a selfless act of love. You may establish a supportive environment that fosters recovery while also protecting your well-being by communicating effectively and exercising self-care. Remember that your health is important, and by setting boundaries, you are securing your long-term source of support.

While attempting to maintain healthy boundaries and learning about mental illness, I discovered that while we have good intentions, there are moments when we put ourselves and those around us at risk first. Supporting a loved one suffering from a mental illness can be a difficult and emotionally demanding experience. There are times when leaving is a necessary option for both parties. Despite my best intentions, I had to make a difficult decision to remove myself from the equation. It should be noted that this is a highly personal decision that should be made after a thorough analysis of individual circumstances. Setting priorities for my own mental health was one of the main factors in my decision to leave. Being surrounded by someone who is dealing with mental illness all the time can have an adverse effect on one's own health. Despite my best efforts to offer assistance, I discovered that I was emotionally spent, stressed, and anxious. I was able to concentrate on my recovery and look for the help I needed to regain emotional stability by leaving. I could better assist myself and perhaps be in a better position to provide support in the future if I prioritized my emotional well-being.

Another issue that influenced my decision was my loved one's lack of progress or willingness to seek professional help or participate in treatment. Despite my constant encouragement and support, they resisted receiving the essential help. The decision to leave was a wake-up call, emphasizing the importance of personal responsibility and the necessity for individuals to take control of their mental health journey. I can only hope it allowed my loved one to face the repercussions of their actions, and I hope, motivated a call for them to get the assistance they require.

Choosing to walk away from a loved one suffering from mental illness is a difficult decision that should not be taken lightly. It's crucial to remember that each scenario is unique, and this decision should be taken after a thorough examination of the facts. Prioritizing one's mental health, correcting harmful relationships, and realizing the value of personal responsibility are all good reasons for making this decision. Finally, the decision to leave is fundamentally personal, motivated by the need for self-preservation and the pursuit of a healthier, more balanced existence.


In the art piece I've chosen to share- Green is a hue that I associate with unconditional love and with mother nature, who never fails to provide us with what we need, even in the face of adversity. Since we occasionally have to take essential actions in order to survive and thrive, red is my color of survival. I also included the color yellow because it represents confidence and the bravery to take risks in spite of prior setbacks.

 
 
 

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